Rebecca Timlin-Scalera

  • year of diagnosis: 2015
  • survivor years: 1 year
  • current city: Fairfield, CT
  • type of breast cancer: Invasive lobular and ductal carcinoma, Er+, Pr+, Her2-, Stage 3C
  • profession: Neuropsychologist
  • children: 2 (10 & 7)

About Rebecca


What is your idea of happiness?
Me, on a huge hammock looking out over a clear blue sea, with my husband and kids lying comfortably snuggled in next to me (but not bothering me!), while I swing and read to my heart’s content!
When and where were you happiest?
In my home, on a rainy day last year with a fire going, my favorite blanket across my lap, playing a board game for the first time as a family, with my kids and husband. It felt so cozy and like all was right in the world just then and as it should be.
What is your biggest fear?
My biggest fear is dying before I am able to raise my kids. I want to grow old, spoil grandchildren, and have lots of well-earned wrinkles from laughing and smiling so much!
Who are your heroes in real life?
Hard-working parents. Parents who scrape and sweat, working hard and doing all they can for their kids. Unsung heroes. We see them all around us, many of us are them, doing a myriad of things they/we are probably never thanked for – to support our families and take care of our kids. I respect that so much.
What do you most value in your friends?
The qualities I value most in my friends are their sense of humor, sense of adventure, thoughtfulness, and loyalty.
Which talent would you most like to have?
To be funny (or funnier). I try to be funny, especially in my writing. I make a lot of jokes in my head, but I wish I was naturally wittier and could make people laugh all the time. That is an amazing gift. There is nothing quite like it to connect with others and put them at ease.
What is your current state of mind?
My current state of mind is happy and at peace with where I am in life, even with the cancer.
What is your most treasured possession?
My laptop. It is, at times, my window to the world and my outlet for writing that I can take with me anywhere no matter how I’m feeling. It travels from the chemo chair to the recovery couch and everywhere in between.
How do you most like spending your time?
For me, being with loved ones and having the luxuries of both time and comfort to spend with them, for me equals happiness.
What do you most dislike?
Negativity. I find it very draining, now more so than ever to be around people who have a negative slant on everything. You always have a choice as to how you look at things and where you find gratitude.
In your own words, what would you say to inspire or encourage someone facing breast cancer right now?
I can’t say it will be okay, because I don’t know that. However, try not get bogged down by the fear. Try wherever and whenever you can to find gratitude and humor throughout this process. Isn’t that just a much more appealing way to spend your time?
What is your favorite quote? This can be your own quote or words that you live by.
My own words: “Why not?”
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